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It's Too Late to Apologize

Has anyone ever done something so horrible to you that "I'm sorry" couldn't fix it?


A couple of people have done some inhuman things to me, and committed acts of which I'd never believe human beings capable. One of these people is my daughter's dad.

It's not about their saying "I'm sorry" for me...it's more about them learning from it, and hopefully becoming a better person once remorse sets in for doing a deed that is so cruel it defies believability.

Some say turnabout is fair play; but I believe the best revenge is just letting go, not /worrying/ about their pathetic apologies, and carrying on with life happily without them.

And yes, I'm T-minus one day away from truly journaling. I'm sure it'll come out like a bad case of nausea (or the results thereof), but I feel sure that most of yas will skip over the rambling unhappy bits :>

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lefthand_path
May. 8th, 2008 12:34 am (UTC)
And yes, I'm T-minus one day away from truly journaling...

was this for some sort of bet, or were you trying to lift some spooky internet mojo?
none_too_subtle
May. 9th, 2008 10:01 pm (UTC)
Weird...I didn't get notice for any of these comments. &%*#(&%( EL JAY!!

No, I'm just giving the check time to clear before /really/ updating the way I want to.
lefthand_path
May. 9th, 2008 11:13 pm (UTC)
i acquires your drift
writerwench
May. 8th, 2008 02:31 pm (UTC)
An odd question. 'I'm sorry' very rarely fixes a bad action. It only indicates a quantifiable degree of remorse, or at least a facile expression of remorse, whether or not that is truly felt.

See my recent entries for unforgiveably bad, hurtful, illegal and cynically planned actions.
none_too_subtle
May. 9th, 2008 10:04 pm (UTC)
I hate to say this, but I kinda feel sorry for a 65-year-old woman who's just been left by her husband :( I mean, don't you feel sorry for her a little bit? She's /elderly/. She has no chance (or very little) of having a mate when she dies, and it's a little late in life to be "left". I just can't help but feeling bad for her =/ I didn't see all the horror to which you refer, but rather felt, again, badly about her situation. I don't know all about it, but no one does other than he and she. But at 65, life is nearly over and actions you do at that point could even be attributed to being that age. I don't know how to feel about it, but I know it's not my bidness.
writerwench
May. 10th, 2008 02:51 pm (UTC)
Ummmm... they weren't married, and their relationship lasted perhaps six years. SHE left HIM after he'd had a heart attack and was forced to take medical retirement. That was all a good five years ago... yes, I do pity her for her situation, but she apparently HAS acquired a gentleman admirer, and to tell my partner that he could 'go whistle' for the £2,500 he'd lent her to help with her new kitchen - i.e. she had no intention of repaying that loan, nor the £30,000 he lent her when she moved out so she could buy the apartment in the first place - that's not just mean, it's criminal. I saw the letter she sent his daughter, and it was truly wacko.
none_too_subtle
May. 10th, 2008 02:54 pm (UTC)
That's what I don't understand. If she left him, why is /she/ so bitter?
writerwench
May. 10th, 2008 02:59 pm (UTC)
It seems that on her planet it was fine to move out and leave him alone with his weakened heart, damaged arm and arthritic hip, so long as she was fit enough to get around and carry on her own life, and so long as he was 'on call' to go over and help her with this little job or that whenever she wanted.
And drive her halfway across the country to hospital appointments - at his own expense.
And take her up to the big airfield Sunday market every week.
And drive her to/from airports whenever she went on holiday.

He committed the immense crime, in her eyes, of moving on in his life, acquiring moi as girlfriend, and generally failing to remain in the little box she'd constructed for him.

She's a nutso-jealous, uber-possessive, controlling individual. Nearly all of my man's other friends can't stand her - and I guess this was the only way she could think of getting her own back on him, by taking all that stuff.
none_too_subtle
May. 10th, 2008 03:02 pm (UTC)
She sounds like someone I know (well, I don't know her, but she wants in my life SO BAD it's freaky). Only this chick is in her 20's. Psycho, straight up. And greedy as hell. I feel sorry for her, too.

I don't understand that whole situation but again, only he and she really know "the whole deal". One can never know the true dynamics of a relationship unless they're in it. They both deserve peace in their lives, though, especially considering their age(s).
ayoub
May. 8th, 2008 06:22 pm (UTC)
*hugs you*
none_too_subtle
May. 9th, 2008 10:04 pm (UTC)
*hugs you bach*
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