Things a girl should NEVER say

Apr. 1st, 2008 at 5:49 PM

"He'd never do that to me."
"He's totally honest with me."
"He'd never even think about cheating on me."

If you think that? And I don't care how in love you are, or how much he loves you (he probably does love you, in fact) you've not really lived life.

All men are guilty of it. They need the affirmation too badly. If they say they'd "never" they WILL BE the first ones to do it.

The same goes for women. Women just don't talk about it as much, nor get busted as often.

Period.

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summercamp

Apr. 1st, 2008 11:33 pm (UTC)

Don't forget...

"don't worry, it's safe" and "checks in the mail"!

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lefthand_path

Apr. 2nd, 2008 01:21 am (UTC)

(yeah i wish i could have gotten your call when you first called, but apparently gene and craig's new neighborhood is almost a total dead zone when it comes to cell phones. maybe that's how they got the house so cheap).

:(

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none_too_subtle

Apr. 2nd, 2008 03:32 am (UTC)

Nah, it's cool. You were with friends, so I wouldn't have kept you anyway.

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fionnbharro

Apr. 2nd, 2008 03:23 am (UTC)

So... What you're really saying is that I, as a guy, am the lone Milquetoast who's never had the opportunity?

Or what?

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none_too_subtle

Apr. 2nd, 2008 03:25 am (UTC)

Something like that...

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phaseolus

Apr. 3rd, 2008 02:36 am (UTC)

Surprisingly, given how my wife and I annoy each other so much - sometimes to the point of making us wish we'd never ever met - I've never cheated in the (counts on fingers...) 17-1/2 years I've known her. I'd venture a guess that it's a behavior that's a little less common among introverts; we don't go huntin' quite as much, even when we're single.

But, yeah, you're right -- nearly all of us men will do whatever we think we can get away with, given the opportunity...

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none_too_subtle

Apr. 3rd, 2008 02:40 am (UTC)

Maybe I should've "fleshed out" cheating a little more. "Cheating" can include intimate relations (not necessarily sex) with any opposite sex member. Sharing secrets, particularly about your S.O./lover/spouse is just wrong, but it goes on all the time and usually in private. If any of us knew it was happening, we'd have a fit. :> I think, also, that flirting goes on behind the backs of spouses/S.O.s, too, that -- if discovered -- might break the back of an otherwise healthy relationship. But because of clever hiding and non-disclosure, too many get away with it.

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phaseolus

Apr. 3rd, 2008 03:03 am (UTC)

Oh, that stuff -- I do it all the time. ;)

One thing where wife & I are profoundly different: To her, there are no significant personal boundaries between husband and wife. Two literally become one. No secrets, nothing. Me, I've always maintained boundaries. She's one person, I'm a separate person. There's that wall around me. A big, thick, heavy, reinforced steel-and-masonry blockade that nothing gets through.

So I've always known that she is going to have thoughts, ideas, feelings that I'm not privy to, since I definitely have all of the above. I'm aware that she occasionally flirts with old boyfriend from 20 years ago (because she can't not tell me,) but it doesn't bother me. He's in Ireland anyway. However, some of the things I've said about her (not to mention all those little puppy crushes I get that last a few minutes to a few months) would bother her a lot if she knew about them. I think we're still together only because I keep my inner life a secret...

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none_too_subtle

Apr. 3rd, 2008 04:46 am (UTC)

Those net crushes are precisely what I'm talking about. We both know they're typically fleeting (and most unions NEVER work out years later), but they occur despite a person's status.

I dunno that she'd leave you over that. She loves you, and you might have to suffer therapy at worst. lol :) But I'm glad you articulated this, because I swear, everyone's in denial, partially because they're guilty of first, cheating, and second, marrying their internet crush and third, probably failing. lololol :) Nobody around here likes to talk about life's little ugly truths. I wonder why that is? Let's put it all on the table and discuss. Nothing wrong with it :)

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