"don't worry, it's safe" and "checks in the mail"!

(yeah i wish i could have gotten your call when you first called, but apparently gene and craig's new neighborhood is almost a total dead zone when it comes to cell phones. maybe that's how they got the house so cheap).

:(

So... What you're really saying is that I, as a guy, am the lone Milquetoast who's never had the opportunity?

Or what?

Surprisingly, given how my wife and I annoy each other so much - sometimes to the point of making us wish we'd never ever met - I've never cheated in the (counts on fingers...) 17-1/2 years I've known her. I'd venture a guess that it's a behavior that's a little less common among introverts; we don't go huntin' quite as much, even when we're single.

But, yeah, you're right -- nearly all of us men will do whatever we think we can get away with, given the opportunity...

Oh, that stuff -- I do it all the time. ;)

One thing where wife & I are profoundly different: To her, there are no significant personal boundaries between husband and wife. Two literally become one. No secrets, nothing. Me, I've always maintained boundaries. She's one person, I'm a separate person. There's that wall around me. A big, thick, heavy, reinforced steel-and-masonry blockade that nothing gets through.

So I've always known that she is going to have thoughts, ideas, feelings that I'm not privy to, since I definitely have all of the above. I'm aware that she occasionally flirts with old boyfriend from 20 years ago (because she can't not tell me,) but it doesn't bother me. He's in Ireland anyway. However, some of the things I've said about her (not to mention all those little puppy crushes I get that last a few minutes to a few months) would bother her a lot if she knew about them. I think we're still together only because I keep my inner life a secret...

Heh...

Well said :D