"He's totally honest with me."
"He'd never even think about cheating on me."
If you think that? And I don't care how in love you are, or how much he loves you (he probably does love you, in fact) you've not really lived life.
All men are guilty of it. They need the affirmation too badly. If they say they'd "never" they WILL BE the first ones to do it.
The same goes for women. Women just don't talk about it as much, nor get busted as often.
Period.
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Or what?
But, yeah, you're right -- nearly all of us men will do whatever we think we can get away with, given the opportunity...
One thing where wife & I are profoundly different: To her, there are no significant personal boundaries between husband and wife. Two literally become one. No secrets, nothing. Me, I've always maintained boundaries. She's one person, I'm a separate person. There's that wall around me. A big, thick, heavy, reinforced steel-and-masonry blockade that nothing gets through.
So I've always known that she is going to have thoughts, ideas, feelings that I'm not privy to, since I definitely have all of the above. I'm aware that she occasionally flirts with old boyfriend from 20 years ago (because she can't not tell me,) but it doesn't bother me. He's in Ireland anyway. However, some of the things I've said about her (not to mention all those little puppy crushes I get that last a few minutes to a few months) would bother her a lot if she knew about them. I think we're still together only because I keep my inner life a secret...
I dunno that she'd leave you over that. She loves you, and you might have to suffer therapy at worst. lol :) But I'm glad you articulated this, because I swear, everyone's in denial, partially because they're guilty of first, cheating, and second, marrying their internet crush and third, probably failing. lololol :) Nobody around here likes to talk about life's little ugly truths. I wonder why that is? Let's put it all on the table and discuss. Nothing wrong with it :)
Well said :D